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Tuesday, November 9, 2010

COLD CHRISTMAS


Christmas... Oh.. It is a normal holiday for me. Glam Xmas tree, excitement of everyone, exchange of presence, picture - picture ,togetherness... and whatever they do, casually do when Christmas is here. It's an ordinary day for me, I began to feel that way when I started to live away from my family. I don't feel sad when I celebrate it to anybody else because I don't feel it anyway. But when I used to have you I started to feel the solitude whenever holiday is coming to town.



Needless to say, My Christmas will be COLD.
Snow never drops here,
yet I felt frozen inside
the fact I know I will spend it alone.

I only have silver oldies, treasure and pleasure, dear to my heart remembrance here that are safely sealed in my memory. Well, I guess that's the only option that makes me be with you.. again.
I wish for your happiness from a distance...

Merry Christmas Bloo.


Silentia screma

current status: lost, lackadaisical, undead corpse inside , almost insane

Hey pal! Have you ever had experienced extreme hurt that you wanna scream yet there's no room to yell it out?

I need a place...
A place where I can loose all shit feelings I feel right now.

After I read your message on the screen, tears never hesitate to fell on my messy cheeks. It's good my seatmate wasn't bothered or maybe she just let me since we're stranger to each other.

Truth is really cruel, wasn't it? It doesn't give me warning. It just hit me in second like a bullet right through my soul. Now my soul is in bad state. Every functions of my brain dispersed for a moment. My heart is currently in the operating room. It can't bear the depression. I hate it. I hate being hurt. But this one is too big that I lost my 90% or over of my sanity and reasonableness. I tried to keep my senses . I tried to make things rational but it's like a malfunction robot that mixed up it's program and began to rampage. It tormented my heart and mind. Come hell or high tide, tears just fell unhesitatedly. It just keep falling and I sobbed silently because I don't want anyone around notices it.

Why it's always like this?
Why I allowed this crap take over my bright life?
L-O-V-3 Is really unbearable! ***


After learning the damn truth, I feel like I need not a few but many shots! I want to go back where I used to drink so my memory with my feelings bit by bit EVANESCED. But I know it won't be so effective and it will affect some of my current urgencies.

Since I dunno where to go, I let my slippers settle my destination. I walk like dead on the highway, while thinking what I'm gonna do now. I was wondering if it's now a normal phenomenon for someone who have feel depression, breakdown, bitterness, suffering from love and uhh whatever emotion that is unbearable to walk alone in the street like a lost soul. Then, I glanced my phone and I saw our characters' snapshot smiling together... it doesn't cheer me up. Instead I feel a menthol, bitter-mint within that it burst another batch of tears. My heart was buckled tightly that causes my breath slacking from it's normal beat.I quickly divert my thinking onto something that would stop the provoking emotion. But my mind is currently malfunctioned, what should I do? I think of some persons yet I know it's a burden to hug her and cry it all out to her shoulder. Till I arrived at my rented room. I shut myself to bed and continue the tears I've hold for hours. But I still managed to cry silently on my pillow to avoid trouble to my buddy.

And my weeping continue silently till I fell asleep.



RESULT: head ache and eye bags

T___T

ANOTHER SHATTER

Help.
:(
I badly need someone
My tears don't stop.
It just keep flowing on my messy face
My heart still in pain.
...


to be cont.

status: lost.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

ANTISOCIAL: B_E_W_A_R_E :)




?



Are you antisocial?

I've met a lot of people that confessed he/she is antisocial. It means they don't like to socialize around the group or lack of confidence to show his self to the society.



Some misunderstand that they are antisocial because they don't like to be part of social persons - people who's exposed to fashion and glam life. They
prefer to be simple and jam to mediocre friends who are so-true for them.

These are misconceptions indeed.

AccorDing to what I had surfed down here from mentalhealth.com: Antisocial Personality Disorder is a condition characterized by persistent disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others that begins in childhood or early adolescence and continues into adulthood. Deceit and manipulation are central features of this disorder. → in short delinque
ncy.

Often they are more agressive and have unpleasant behavior towards other people and may cause harm to them. They don't even care or pay least concern. They're danger zone, keep out!
But they can be diagnose of course.
I just want to impart what I learned because sometimes those words that we encounter we think can be msileading and scatter that misconception ... because his word is also your another word
for your every day vocabulary.


credits to googleimages and mentalhealth.com

WHAT IS A FRIEND?

tomodachi : amigo : amiga: friend:

I won't bother looking around again in the wikipedia or any other sites that define what is a friend. I will define it my own according to what I see and experience being in friendship. Sometimes, looking for another meaning on the net or on the shelves will bend you out of shape if those ideal sweet meanings are not meet with your current friends. You expect more than what is reality a friend can only do for you or what that person you treat as friend is contrary to your anticipation.

♥ A friend is someone who will believe in you when the world says it's hopeless and even your family. The only one left still congratulating you how many times you quit for the job and reapply.
♥ TRUST. that's the first ingredient for a friendship to blend well. Enough is better.

Don't expect too much and depend on your friend, if she's a real friend she knows you need her in your better or in your worst times.

Some say, if you've been bully by some pranks... • she will defend you or fight for you... if you're friend really make it on the battlefield, then lucky for you. Contrary to expectation, most friends remain rational, calm,or keep silent. They don't like to involve in such childish fights. Even it's good to picture out your friend can do that but actually that won't solve anything.

Some say , she's your crying shoulder • True. She is your handkerchief. You can sniff and sniff and cry all your heart out. But, not all the time. What if she's not in the mood, can you rely that tears of yours to her shoulder? Some friends too do not tolerate such weakness all the time. It's ok if it's oft. You should be more dependent to yourself, not to rely your weakness to her all the time.

Some say friend will always be by your side • Partly true. If you mean it that she's visible by your side oftentimes, then you might agree. What if she's a thousand miles away from you? Would you reckon the promises and sweet nothing words? My friend is over there. She's working abroad. And I'm here. We're certified friends! And I don't feel so alone. I made two simple music vids 'by your side - faber drive' ; 'tabi - paraluman ft. kean' just to remind her I'm still here. You might be confuse now... Thinking of her makes me feel she's just beside me. Afterall, we know our hearts beat as one. It's just how you think makes you feel it.

If everything turned down, who else you'll gonna depend on in this world? • Some say... friends esp. when family is the one that abandonned. Don't be hypocrite. You're making things more complicated and miserable if you rely to mild humans. Like what I previously stated , depend more to yourself. Your friend is also a human. Think of the worst possibilities that will gonna happen to your life ... then evaluate if that friend of yours can be count on. She may support you but not your ultimate shield. She can lend you her strength but be tougher too in that way she might defend you all the way.

Some friends promise to lend their hand when your down and outcast. WHO??? There is no other human who can lend their hand all the time. I bet.All of us have different things to do everyday, everytime. Think of your INVISIBLE YET VISIBLE FRIEND. Treat HIM as your friend. HE's just there all the time watching you. Sometimes, we never think of Him because what we need is the one who can appear right before our sight, who will embrace us because we're hurt.


FRIENDS COME AND GO. True. No matter what kind of a friend she is, still appreciate her value. Afterall, each of them leave us lessons and experience that certainly we can use in our next stopover of friendship not just that even in our daily life. If you observed, some bitter friendship learned you to become more pleasant person. .. or helped you grow.


:))






PERFECT GUY?




Where is the GUY I'm LOOKING for who will SATISFY my body, mind and soul?


What is perfect guy for me?
A girl or woman usually has her list of qualities for a perfect guy.

PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY:
1.Appealing
2. has erudite tastes
3. high browed
4. SLIM
5.organized
6. neat
7. clever
8. his sweetness are done in unpredictable way
9. can drive me crazy...
10. has self- control
11. even he's intelligent still it's better he knows how to give care to other people
12. CHRISTIAN (mind & soul)
and ETC - ETC means it's no use to write more attributes because I don't mean any real guy in this world.

If I ask my friends about their mate,they could tell a few but I realized that what good that guy for you might not necessarily look good to another girl. Then
perfect guy doesn't exist?
Looking for the perfect guy is undeniably what we girls desire to. . .
And lately, I was bothered a least, even the guys were around me yet I'm still looking better than him. I felt like I'm becoming perfectionist. I fantasized men who are already in my save memory.
And they can be seen on the screen.

I could only watch at them acting or singing .
They are the only men who makes me smile and get back my mood.
If I feel so stressed, I only think one of them who is so appealing and think his pure smile as my vitamins. Since those guys do not exist in my world,I thought to initiate and dare myself searching if there's such a guy who at least I could say I desire and do some effort. If only a guy appears even once in my life like tae kyung (in the koreanovela he's beautiful) or Channing Tatum, then I'll sign the contract of being a bachelorette forever!
Drama movies and teleseries really touch people feelings in many ways.
And I won't deny that I could wish I should've seen this movie with my date and
do sweet-nothings and toast our heads like kids and touch each other's nose.
Although we see couples on the TV or in movies who seem so in love and are perfectly match, they don't really exist in the real world.
Other human ,generally males, may think I'm so fairy-taled and think it's so absurd, Ahh, men are just envious because he's not the one I choose to.
To bad for him he's such a sore eye :)
Anyway, I 'm not in a hurry to look for a relationship, I'm still full of oxygen to live on my own.
De facto is, These full-of-charm guys are my vitamins both from stress and anxiety.
Rather than men who appear in my sight who give me so much headache.

Say, Even my cute Tae Kyung or any of my desired men will look like a chibi, a highbrow person, a stick cartoon I still like him. Ha ha!
That's the magical charm an actor/model possessed , no wonder :)
Appealing, erudite tastes, slim, organized and neat, clever, his sweetness are done in unpredictable way, can drive me crazy...
and ETC - means it's no use to write those attributes
because I don't mean any real guy in this world.

Some say it's very typical for us women, it's a give/take relationship. The man ought to give what woman wants and the other part, woman takes what she needs from her mate. It's not that we're living too much in fancy world. To think it is ridiculous for you might be. I think man couldn't blame us habitually looking or listing good attributes a guy must have, physically or emotionally. Especially, when a woman gone through bitter or displeasing past relationships
or see her guy is deficient or too lousy. And maybe she has gone through an ideal and she wants that relationship again and again, in short ADDICTING relationship. lewl.]
Hey, the subjects were obviously from the koreanovela 'He's beatiful' because they're delightful and sweet. But doesn't mean my writing about my perfect guy was rotated only by it.

credits to googleimages .


SADNESS IS CONTAGIOUS!

My life is tossed like a paper. My balance of thinking is slowly dwindling like I was a dipsomaniac! Even though I don't entertain unhappiness currently yet I felt like there's always an instant invitation of the dark when I'm awfully bent out of shape. Optimism disappeared like dead petals scattered on the air, no matter how I tried to repeat those positive words in my mind. I could see how beaten myself in the broken mirror. I keep feeding my fighting spirit that it won't lose even if I will discover later I was alone fighting for myself. That I will get lose in the end.Even some of my friends that I thought are FRIENDS will eat me all up down to the marrow of my bones. I shall not quit because of their pointless threats. That is not important for now. . . I must keep striving even the world look at me like a creep. A living corpse who's still striving to get her life back!
Afterall, No matter where I see, I couldn't deny I have thought this world is also a hell. There is no difference being in this world or in the underworld where they called the HELL! Because people commit sins in no limit. People betray their own kind. People hurt their love in their selfish ways. To question myself why I'm sad... can be really contagious. Therefore, I must prevent myself from wretchedness and things that makes my heart heavy. Sigh, it's easier said than done, huh? Being alone is another luck for it to inject inside my soul. And the toxins of sadness will create another scenery and that is why you can see it through my face :(

Sunday, October 31, 2010

MONSTER DAY NOT ALL SOULS/SAINTS DAY !

monster... oh! monster! don't go near me. I'm scared of you! (tee hee)
I wonder why people celebrate halloween. Wearing all monster-like costumes and smeared make ups. We supposed to commemorate our departed loved ones. Were our loved ones are creeps ? deathly pale vampires ? cut head monk? flying coffin? white ladies? walking grim? They were certified monsters, I believed! But our loved ones are not monsters. Those monsters we're impersonating came from hell. I remember I asked my aunt who used to be as a choir member since I was a kid. Then I asked her why this celebration happens? We're praying for the dead not to raise those beasts from hell. It's like she was astounded on my question. It's undeniable how fun halloween party is but I wonder if this is also an invitation for scourgians to attend to. It's like we are giving once in a lifetime a chance for devils to enter to our world adn celebrate with us. Would that be great to you if the one you're dancing with is a real junkie who almost want to swallow you alive? I have heard some stories they experienced that during their party. But sometimes since your all-costume you cannot pick out the real-one monster! well, we are going today or tomorrow to visit them sleeping at their tombs. I hope they won't get badly disturbed with. Happy all souls day. Best regards to the wondering souls out there!

Monday, June 28, 2010

have you ever thought..?

the cross .
as cicero referred to it as abominable punishment.
that inflicted terrible suffering on the crucified person
before he or she died.
and yet, nowadays people wear it around their neck, hang it on their bedroom wall, and have come to identify it as a religious symbol, forgetting that they are looking at an instrument of torture.


from the the story of hanz and fritz...

acomodador

Was there a point in your life you've been stucked? ; failed? ; unable to move on?
this point called ACOMODADOR

The acomodador or giving-up point :
there is always an event in our lives
that is responsible for us failing to progress;
a trauma, a particularly bitter defeat, a disappointment in love,
even a victory that we did not understand,
can make cowards of us and prevent us from moving on.

i've read this from the novel of P. Coelho.
I was being hit by the term
and boosted my weak soul to get uP!


we have to learn how to fail on something,
so we can achieve something else.

we must find our own way to beat the acomodador from ourselves.

praise me, and i'll get myself squared.

when people praise us,

we should always keep a close eye on

how we behave

change

"No one can make a sea disappear"

invisible thief__

you help me build my life
and had nearly destroyed me
you were like a thief in the night
who stole my heart and dignity
and without the intention
of returning back home

nakarelate lang ako sa isang nobela ni PC.

Monday, June 7, 2010

what pain taught me...



Pain.

have you suffer enough pain?

me? uhm i dont really know.

Pain is inevitably, undeniably part of life. It's human nature to cry, scream out louder, kneel under the rain, drink till the night surrenders...et al.

Was it wrong to express like this?
I just want to loose all the negative emotions -
the feeling to avenge,
the feeling to kill, the feeling of being dispirited, being betrayed, stabbed....
But i dont think that meant I'm BrokeN .weaK.hopeless.incompetent.pathetic. incapable to love again, incapable to move ahead more than you'd expect.

BIG LOLS.





Thanks for that. pain made me realised where are the shattered pieces of me. made me discover the 'lacking' in me. made me realised there's more to life than being enslave in your world.

pain resurrected me from being dead in all the things that I just overlooked.discounted.and whatever.

Pain made me realised that I need to be connected and reconnected. that I should not live this life selfishly alone. It challenged my pride and confidence. And disregard the world of formality and accepts the low ways of conversations and communications.




even though I always babbling about death, my death and the waiting of death...don't mean I'm not capable of living. I just don't quite follow the rules of this world,in fact, we haven't really know who set really these rules. Apparently, I too am only capable of losing a life , surely unsure of bringing some lives in this complicated world.



Thursday, June 3, 2010

when loneliness shadowed me...


If you have ever lost someone very important to you,
then you already know how it FEELS,
and if you haven't
you CANNOT possibly IMAGINE it.



It's crazy how at one moment
from a bond ,
when you have recklessly spend your time
with that someone
no matter what other people say
no matter what critics and ugly comments
receive , heard.
you both go on and on
like white birds flying and crashing
with the waves of the sea

It's still amazing and
I could say no one can unlock
our inseparable hands

but time has come
uff! I hate our destiny.


I'm not her future holder
she has a life too
And I knew this right from the start
I met her
That she had another life afar from me
it's inevitable.
Nevertheless, we cannot live all our life together
and spending all our free time alone

"What hurts the most
Was being so close
And havin' so much to say
And watchin' you walk away"

"It's hard to deal with the pain of losin' you everywhere I go
But I'm doin' it
It's hard to force that smile when I see our old friends and I'm alone"

by rascal flatts


while it's playing in my mp3
It's like I make a music video inside my head
Me watching her take steps going inside the airport
Even if i hold much of my tears
it really poured out
damn.damn.damn.
feeling' boneless.
feelin' gray.
feelin' crazy.


[It's ironic
She doesn't remember this song
when she's the one who listened this before
And I just ignored it[

Obviously, this was my song when she left me.






All i have now
are the memories that i don't really know
if it help or it hurts more
it makes me smile
it makes me cry
it squeeze my heart
it breaks my head

I have memories wit' her everywhere!!!

Randomly at the mall shopping @ artwork and elsewhere
@ mcdo beating their ads wit fries in the fudge,
convenience store late @ night,
walking in her street
going to downtown
Every stuff in my room,
playing games @ cafe
her ALL.


I miss you best.


God bless.



Wednesday, June 2, 2010

my color personality test




ColorQuiz.compeachcake8 took the free ColorQuiz.com personality test!

""Is intimidated by the activities going on around ..."


Click here to read the rest of the results.


Tuesday, June 1, 2010

the sudden loss of 'r chief blood [violet mode]


the loss of someone...[breakdown mode]
what should i feel?
I know i supposed to cry
but my head kept tellin' me
why would I?
when years have gone
I used to live without a father in my side
there were no how-are-you's
No...Nothing at all.



I know the death of my father is unpredictive,
unexpected,
no signs at all.

when my father almost loss his breathe, 99% dying...
I just thought if it all flashback to his mind
all his lacks,
defection,
failure for his family:
to his son and daughters

being unable to show the role of a father.

" Ano kaya ang mga huling sambit ng kanyang bibig
at huling laman ng kanyang isip."

Not all wounds get healed
If not doctorized by the person
who caused you agony and trouble within,
time take cares of it.

So I hope they won't demand me right away
to forgive and consider asap
it's because he's now dead
I still believe there's the right time
to lighten all the weights inside.

I know my heart and my mind
will gotta find a way
to fix all itself

sayonara.

Monday, May 31, 2010

im dreaming naked! ...have you ever?


I'M NAKED!
there were lot of times i dreamed naked. If not me, my friends, foes, or completely stranger, I dream of them unclothed. Sometimes I'm half conscious that I'm naked and I'm panicking where to get clothes. Weird sometimes because most of my naked dreams , if my friend's barely stripped, he's/ she's not bothered by his/her nakedness. On top of that, he/she wasn't been humiliated, embarassed, or even get bothered by the people. It's just me. It's only ME. why? maybe because... I'm the chief of this dream? I'm the owner?
So naturally Im the protagonist? lmao.



Dreaming that you are completely or partially naked is very common. Nudity symbolizes a variety of things depending on your real life situation.

Becoming mortified at the realization that you are naked in public, reflects your vulnerability or feelings of shamefulness. You may be hiding something and are afraid that others can see right through you. Metaphorically, clothes are a means of concealment. Depending on the type of clothes you wear, you can hide your identity or be someone else. But without them, everything is hanging out for all to see. You are exposed and left without any defenses. Thus your naked dream may be telling you that you are trying to be something that you really are not. Or you are fearful of being ridiculed and disgraced. Such anxieties are elevated especially in situations where you are trying to impress others. Perhaps you are in a new work environment or in a new relationship. You may be expressing fears or apprehension in revealing your true feelings in such situations.

Nudity also symbolizes being caught off guard. Finding yourself naked at work or in a classroom, suggests that you are unprepared for a project at work or school. You may be unprepared in making a well informed decision. With all eyes on you, you fear that some flaw will be brought to public attention. You fear that people will see through your true self and you will be exposed as a fraud or a phony.

Often times, when you realize that you are naked in your dream, no one else seems to notice. Everyone else in the dream is going about their business without giving a second look at your nakedness. If this happens in your dream, then it implies that your fears are unfounded; no one will notice except you. You may be magnifying the situation and making an issue of nothing.

If you dream that you are proud of your nakedness and show no embarrassment or shame, then it symbolizes your unrestricted freedom. You have nothing to hide and are proud of who you are. The dream is about a new sense of honesty, openness, and a carefree nature. Perhaps you are trying to get to the �bare facts�. Alternatively, the dream may be telling you that you are drawing the wrong kind of attention to yourself. You want to get noticed, but are going about it the wrong way.

Friday, May 28, 2010

why stupid people tend to stay in an abusive relationship?

Align Center Align Right Justify Full

Some very intelligent people are quite stupid

why she/he could not break away
from a person who was so destructive/abusive?


Abusers do not play fair.

You will not be involved in an equal discussion; the cards are stacked against you; the game is fixed.

Abusers are Jekyll and Hyde types - you will often be dealing with essentially two personalities.

jekyll and hyde means -
One who has a dual personality that alternates between phases of good and evil behavior.






You may see a kind, caring side much of the time but then be confronted with a dark, angry, loud, critical, judgmental, uncompromising side that engages in personal attacks, belittling, manipulation and humiliation.

==== Abusive statements are used to gain or maintain control.

In my experience abusers will use anything that works to keep control; they even use rational and sensible arguments! They do not care which technique as long as they win. Note: rational arguments are something you should encourage while discouraging the other behavior.

==== Abusive statements are meant to push your buttons, provoke you and throw you off guard.

Things such as anger, guilt, disappointment, jealousy and regret are often used by abusers to get your goat.


make him stupid.

make him angry.

make him JEALOUS!

have you ever use this to anybody ' BLACKMAIL?'


in psychology---

Emotional Blackmail

MEANING: You are forced to do something because the emotional consequences from the other person would be too great to do otherwise.

RELEVANCE TO ABUSE: Emotional blackmail is a favorite technique of abusers. It is related to the double bind and to mixed messages.

personal experience: well. i have use blackmailing several people. I used it for my own defense/satisfaction/revenge/payback/fairdeal. I presume my enemy's gonna betray or trick me behind my back so I make it sure i have my own trump card. I can play without you heeding it ^_^


... "what betrayal you see is trivial. but what truly fearsome is the betrayal that you don't see!"


so watch out ^()^




L.lawliet ryuuzaki.my L



"No matter how gifted you are, you alone cannot change the world"

profile:

name: L [Lawliet Ryuuzaki]
birthdate: 10.31.79
deathdate:11.5.04
gender: male
age: 24 y/o
height: 5'10
weight: 50kg / 110.2 lbs
profession: detective
anime: death note



L Pick'd QUOTES

“If you use your head, you won’t get fat even if you eat sweets.

I just can’t sit any other way than this.
If I sit the way other people do, my reasoning ability drops by 40%.

Kira is childish and he hates losing… I’m also childish and hate losing.

"Risking your life and doing something
that could easily rob you of your life are exact opposites."


“My number of friends has increased yet again.”

“Let’s value our lives"








L's Personality

In Death Note

L describes himself as having a "childish nature"
one who is unyielding and
hates to lose.

Highly intelligent and perceptive
and even take drastic measures to achieve his aims
He is also a risk taker and has no qualms
about disclosing his weaknesses and
risking his life if it means having a chance to nail down his suspect.

L is also an introvert

and does not have much friends;
in fact, he describe Light as his first friend.





Thursday, May 27, 2010

my L

































how effective is ..using REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY?




No one likes it
when someone else is getting ahead of them.
Beyond that, no one really likes being told what to do.

If you really want something,
you could flat out say what that is

and hope that the person you're dealing with is
benevolent or easy-going enough to give it to you.






Chances are...

they are the other kind of person
who are most likely to say no or give you something else.

By then, you've let your true desires be known

and it's probably too late to employ the better aspects of reverse psychology.



In learning to nuance reverse psychology, it's always best to have a good idea of whom you are dealing with.

Who does reverse psychology work on?


This is the most important step in employing your reverse psychology techniques. This is where gathering information is the most important process.

So what are the general states of people are most affected by this technique? You can usually spot them because they are:


  • Angry
  • Defiant
  • Childish
  • Sick of their jobs
  • Alternative looking
  • Working at a government office
  • Bored
  • This is just a small list, but you get the point.

    Someone who's likely to feel it's unfair

    you are getting something you want

    when their day is so crummy are exactly who this works on.


There are a few people that it probably won't work on. They are people who are likely to take your words at face value like overly religious people or the elderly.

Often you have a chance to see how someone is dealing with other people like if you are standing in line. If the teller is crabby to the guy in front of you, then he or she is very likely to be crabby with you. If you roll up and say, "I'd love for you to give me everything I want," they might not tell you where to put it, but they might do something underhanded to bring you down to their misery.

How does reverse psychology work?

To put it plainly, using reverse psychology is essentially asking for the opposite of what you want. You mother was probably really good at this by saying something like "I hate it when your room is so clean." If you were in a tyrannical mood when she said this, you might clean your room just to spite her.

This is the most blatant way to influence someone, but really only works on children when used this way. If you are dealing with adults, you need to be a little bit more sneaky especially if they are smart.

Exclusivity

People want what they can't have, plain and simple. When you make something scarce or exclusive, there are a certain kind of people who have to have it. Why do you think airlines have a divider between first class and coach? You might think that being able to see all the preferential treatment the first class passengers are getting is reason enough for the upgrade, but it's the stuff you don't see… that's what makes it so desireable.

When it comes down to it, they simply get a bigger seat and maybe a plate and silverware. You arrive at the same destination at the same time as they do. But people imagine all kinds of extra stuff as they're crammed in the back of the plane.

In this case your own brain sells the service and convinces you how much better must be. Limousines don't just have blacked out windows for the privacy of the passengers. It makes you really want to see what all the hullabaloo is about!

What's behind the velvet rope? Now there's a large portion of society this doesn't work on because they have convinced themselves they could never engage in such opulence. But for the guy who has money (or just came into some) he's dying to know what the deal is.

You can't have it

Along the same lines as exclusivity, telling someone that they can't have something plays even deeper into their greed. You see this all the time at a shop when a child throws a tantrum over something he can't have.

There's just something maddening about the phrase, "Let's just be friends." If you've ever heard this, it has a way of crushing you and turning a passing fancy into an obsession. Women love using this term. They'll keep you around and flirt with you, but the moment you act on these mixed signals, now you're stuffed into the "friends" closet and you're trapped forever.

So what prevents you from reversing that psychology on the girl you like? I promise you NO ONE has ever told her, "Let's just be friends." It will drive her insane if you use her tricks back on her.

Scarcity

Advertising companies use this type of reverse psychology all the time: "Limited supply, limited time offer… only 3 left at this price!" If there aren't many left, you better get yourself one right now or some other dude is gonna snatch it up! We all know how this one works.

How can you apply the technique of scarcity in your daily life? For one, don't ever be the one who calls and texts your love all day every day. It's important to give your lover a chance to miss you. You can't take up every waking thought in their head without burning them out eventually.

Someone who's not available all the time is desirable. This kind of reverse psychology applies to all aspects of personal and business life. Eventually your friends will get tired of you if you always show up on their doorstep unannounced. If you make sure you miss a couple meetings at work (which are always major time wasters), co-workers will automatically think you are working on more important projects. They don't have to know you're goofing off, but never correct their wild assumptions.

Let's say you meet a girl in another town while on a business trip. You might be tempted to tell her you'll be in town for awhile so she has time to get to know you before she sleeps with you. Wrong move! The fact that you're leaving and leaving soon makes you way more likely to push the timeframe forward.

Being presumptuous

You obviously want something from someone, but when they come right out and tell you, "I'm not going to lend you my car/sleep with you/babysit your six delinquent children." You can't let them have the upper ground.

You can actually use reverse psychology to guilt them into doing your bidding. These conversations usually start with a "how dare you" or a "what are you talking about?" You must lead them to believe that your desire was the furthest thing from your mind: "What!?? No, I was hoping to get my friend to watch my fire-starting kids. But now that you mention it, our lives would be so much better if you watched them. I could get so much more done and I know how much you love them!"

You could even insult them a little bit, "Oh, I wouldn't be caught dead in your car. Maybe I'll use this money that I was going to buy us dinner with to rent a BMW." Or, "Sleep with you? You're really not my type. It's sweet of you to think of me that way though."

You're not interested

Let's say you're in the market for a used car. You go into the dealer and he's got the exact car you had spec'ed out with all the options you wanted. You could freak out and say this is the one thing you've always dreamed of.

You just lost all your bargaining power. Before you've even had the chance to kick some tires and try to get a lower price, the salesman know how you simply have to own this car. He has no pressure on getting you in to it.

The best way to start is to first, freak out (on the inside) and get calm. Next, find everything wrong with what you want that you can. Then you simply relent to taking it off their hands.

If you have any siblings, you'll know what I'm talking about. They will never let you have anything that you really really want. Reverse psychology is perfect in situations like these. "That sucks! I'd never want that!" gets you so much further than begging.

This is also your last chance with that person you've been stalking all these years. They're kind of used to all the attention you've given them. The moment you act like you don't want them anymore is the moment they actually take notice in you. Remember, we want the things we can't have (seriously, quit stalking me!).

Jealousy

Although this is one of the most blatant and clichéd form of reverse psychology, the magic is that it still works. You could show that you're no longer interested, but you can add a hot new girlfriend or boyfriend to parade around to drum up some jealosy. No one wants to eat in an empty restaurant…

In fact, this is one of the quickest ways to get your ex back. You need to show them that you are having a great (and sexy) life without them. It touches all of those emotions that got them interested in you in the first place.

Reverse psychology works best on people that aren't very happy and children who are trying to assert their own identities. If used subtly and skillfully, it can be one of the most effective tools in your Influence Arsenal!




credits to the original perx

my very best YELL [koi] 'n our very best bond

BESTFRIENDS
♥ a promise♥
NOT A
LABEL

her recent song: endless story by yuna ito
my recent song: we'll be a dream- we the kings

her codename: koi
my codename: tot


our'firsts' memories:
2gether late @ 1st subj [raining]
we watched the night sky @ st.paul church & wish
2gether get drank @ flyover, bajada
playin scrabble n drinking with her cousins
i kissed her cheek before xmas vacation
she played guitar for me @ rainer's room
we listen to the fm radio with her ol' cassette[ if she remembers]
and let it play overnight

1st over-to-dawn texting and i victimed her

i brought her @ pink sisters church
i made her a poem @ her debut




this wasn't the only best presence i received.
actually there's too many
but this one is very important

and sorry guys if i'm selfish enough
i just don't want anyone to use it





we dig ourselves to music
since we both much love music
we update each other our current songs



♥ chasing cars♥

We'll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don't need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
would you lie with me and just forget the world?




♥ EVERLASTING♥

it doesn't matter how far apart we are
our locked hands
will never seperate


my silent tears are
pouring out of my heart but
I'll take a step forward without regrets
I'm sorry for your tenderness
MATA AERU MADE

everlasting...



♥ changing skies♥

Looked out my window tonight
into the cloud hidden sky
and I, I proclaimed it to be mine
then I knew I'd bringing home,
bring home to you,

they all say that i'm crazy to get up and leave just like that
but I told them its just 4,000 miles
and I was willing to do that

I'm, I'm bringing home to you
cause your the only for me
and maybe you
I I'm changing skies for you but you'll never know
HOW MUCH I'VE MISSED YOU!




♥ vanilla twilight♥

The silence isn't so bad,
Till I look at my hands and feel sad,
Cause the spaces between my fingers
Are right where yours fit perfectly



♥ rainbow veins♥

Cheer up and dry your damp eyes
and tell me when it rains
And I'll blend up that rainbow above you
and shoot it through your veins
Cuz your heart has a lack of color ^_^



♥ safe ride♥

I'll be your safe ride home when you call me
I'll be everything and more
When you call my name


You've changed me for the good
They never understood
But even if they tried I doubt they could
So take my nervous hands
Then we could take a stand
We don't have to live by their demands


When I'm with you there's no worries
When I'm with you there's no shame
When I'm with you I'm secure



♥ innocence♥

This innocence is brilliant
I hope that it will stay
This moment is perfect
Please don't go away
I need you now
And I'll hold on to it
Don't you let it pass you by


I found a place so safe, not a single tear


It's so beautiful it makes you wanna cry



♥ i will be♥

You're the one thing I got right
The only one I let inside
Now I can breathe 'cause you're here with me.


I MISS YOU KOI T_T