im dreaming naked! ...have you ever?

I'M NAKED!

there were lot of times i dreamed naked. If not me, my friends, foes, or completely stranger, I dream of them unclothed. Sometimes I'm half conscious that I'm naked and I'm panicking where to get clothes. Weird sometimes because most of my naked dreams , if my friend's barely stripped, he's/ she's not bothered by his/her nakedness. On top of that, he/she wasn't been humiliated, embarassed, or even get bothered by the people. It's just me. It's only ME. why? maybe because... I'm the chief of this dream? I'm the owner?

So naturally Im the protagonist? lmao.

Dreaming that you are completely or partially naked is very common. Nudity symbolizes a variety of things depending on your real life situation.

Becoming mortified at the realization that you are naked in public, reflects your vulnerability or feelings of shamefulness. You may be hiding something and are afraid that others can see right through you. Metaphorically, clothes are a means of concealment. Depending on the type of clothes you wear, you can hide your identity or be someone else. But without them, everything is hanging out for all to see. You are exposed and left without any defenses. Thus your naked dream may be telling you that you are trying to be something that you really are not. Or you are fearful of being ridiculed and disgraced. Such anxieties are elevated especially in situations where you are trying to impress others. Perhaps you are in a new work environment or in a new relationship. You may be expressing fears or apprehension in revealing your true feelings in such situations.

Nudity also symbolizes being caught off guard. Finding yourself naked at work or in a classroom, suggests that you are unprepared for a project at work or school. You may be unprepared in making a well informed decision. With all eyes on you, you fear that some flaw will be brought to public attention. You fear that people will see through your true self and you will be exposed as a fraud or a phony.

Often times, when you realize that you are naked in your dream, no one else seems to notice. Everyone else in the dream is going about their business without giving a second look at your nakedness. If this happens in your dream, then it implies that your fears are unfounded; no one will notice except you. You may be magnifying the situation and making an issue of nothing.

If you dream that you are proud of your nakedness and show no embarrassment or shame, then it symbolizes your unrestricted freedom. You have nothing to hide and are proud of who you are. The dream is about a new sense of honesty, openness, and a carefree nature. Perhaps you are trying to get to the �bare facts�. Alternatively, the dream may be telling you that you are drawing the wrong kind of attention to yourself. You want to get noticed, but are going about it the wrong way.

why stupid people tend to stay in an abusive relationship?

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Some very intelligent people are quite stupid

why she/he could not break away
from a person who was so destructive/abusive?

Abusers do not play fair.

You will not be involved in an equal discussion; the cards are stacked against you; the game is fixed.

Abusers are Jekyll and Hyde types - you will often be dealing with essentially two personalities.

jekyll and hyde means - One who has a dual personality that alternates between phases of good and evil behavior.






You may see a kind, caring side much of the time but then be confronted with a dark, angry, loud, critical, judgmental, uncompromising side that engages in personal attacks, belittling, manipulation and humiliation.

==== Abusive statements are used to gain or maintain control.

In my experience abusers will use anything that works to keep control; they even use rational and sensible arguments! They do not care which technique as long as they win. Note: rational arguments are something you should encourage while discouraging the other behavior.

==== Abusive statements are meant to push your buttons, provoke you and throw you off guard.

Things such as anger, guilt, disappointment, jealousy and regret are often used by abusers to get your goat.

make him stupid.

make him angry.

make him JEALOUS!

have you ever use this to anybody ' BLACKMAIL?'

in psychology---

Emotional Blackmail

MEANING: You are forced to do something because the emotional consequences from the other person would be too great to do otherwise.

RELEVANCE TO ABUSE: Emotional blackmail is a favorite technique of abusers. It is related to the double bind and to mixed messages.

personal experience: well. i have use blackmailing several people. I used it for my own defense/satisfaction/revenge/payback/fairdeal. I presume my enemy's gonna betray or trick me behind my back so I make it sure i have my own trump card. I can play without you heeding it ^_^

... "what betrayal you see is trivial. but what truly fearsome is the betrayal that you don't see!"

so watch out ^()^

L.lawliet ryuuzaki.my L

"No matter how gifted you are, you alone cannot change the world"

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name: L [Lawliet Ryuuzaki]
birthdate: 10.31.79
deathdate:11.5.04
gender: male
age: 24 y/o
height: 5'10
weight: 50kg / 110.2 lbs
profession: detective
anime: death note

L Pick'd QUOTES

“If you use your head, you won’t get fat even if you eat sweets.

I just can’t sit any other way than this.
If I sit the way other people do, my reasoning ability drops by 40%.

Kira is childish and he hates losing… I’m also childish and hate losing.

"Risking your life and doing something
that could easily rob you of your life are exact opposites."

“My number of friends has increased yet again.”

“Let’s value our lives"

L's Personality

In Death Note

L describes himself as having a "childish nature"
one who is unyielding and
hates to lose.

Highly intelligent and perceptive
and even take drastic measures to achieve his aims
He is also a risk taker and has no qualms
about disclosing his weaknesses and
risking his life if it means having a chance to nail down his suspect.

L is also an introvert

and does not have much friends;
in fact, he describe Light as his first friend.

my L

how effective is ..using REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY?

No one likes it
when someone else is getting ahead of them.
Beyond that, no one really likes being told what to do.

If you really want something,
you could flat out say what that is

and hope that the person you're dealing with is
benevolent or easy-going enough to give it to you.






Chances are...

they are the other kind of person
who are most likely to say no or give you something else.

By then, you've let your true desires be known

and it's probably too late to employ the better aspects of reverse psychology.


In learning to nuance reverse psychology, it's always best to have a good idea of whom you are dealing with.

Who does reverse psychology work on?

This is the most important step in employing your reverse psychology techniques. This is where gathering information is the most important process.

So what are the general states of people are most affected by this technique? You can usually spot them because they are:

• Angry
• Defiant
• Childish
• Sick of their jobs
• Alternative looking
• Working at a government office
• Bored

This is just a small list, but you get the point.


Someone who's likely to feel it's unfair

you are getting something you want


when their day is so crummy are exactly who this works on.

There are a few people that it probably won't work on. They are people who are likely to take your words at face value like overly religious people or the elderly.

Often you have a chance to see how someone is dealing with other people like if you are standing in line. If the teller is crabby to the guy in front of you, then he or she is very likely to be crabby with you. If you roll up and say, "I'd love for you to give me everything I want," they might not tell you where to put it, but they might do something underhanded to bring you down to their misery.

How does reverse psychology work?

To put it plainly, using reverse psychology is essentially asking for the opposite of what you want. You mother was probably really good at this by saying something like "I hate it when your room is so clean." If you were in a tyrannical mood when she said this, you might clean your room just to spite her.

This is the most blatant way to influence someone, but really only works on children when used this way. If you are dealing with adults, you need to be a little bit more sneaky especially if they are smart.

Exclusivity

People want what they can't have, plain and simple. When you make something scarce or exclusive, there are a certain kind of people who have to have it. Why do you think airlines have a divider between first class and coach? You might think that being able to see all the preferential treatment the first class passengers are getting is reason enough for the upgrade, but it's the stuff you don't see… that's what makes it so desireable.

When it comes down to it, they simply get a bigger seat and maybe a plate and silverware. You arrive at the same destination at the same time as they do. But people imagine all kinds of extra stuff as they're crammed in the back of the plane.

In this case your own brain sells the service and convinces you how much better must be. Limousines don't just have blacked out windows for the privacy of the passengers. It makes you really want to see what all the hullabaloo is about!

What's behind the velvet rope? Now there's a large portion of society this doesn't work on because they have convinced themselves they could never engage in such opulence. But for the guy who has money (or just came into some) he's dying to know what the deal is.

You can't have it

Along the same lines as exclusivity, telling someone that they can't have something plays even deeper into their greed. You see this all the time at a shop when a child throws a tantrum over something he can't have.

There's just something maddening about the phrase, "Let's just be friends." If you've ever heard this, it has a way of crushing you and turning a passing fancy into an obsession. Women love using this term. They'll keep you around and flirt with you, but the moment you act on these mixed signals, now you're stuffed into the "friends" closet and you're trapped forever.

So what prevents you from reversing that psychology on the girl you like? I promise you NO ONE has ever told her, "Let's just be friends." It will drive her insane if you use her tricks back on her.

Scarcity

Advertising companies use this type of reverse psychology all the time: "Limited supply, limited time offer… only 3 left at this price!" If there aren't many left, you better get yourself one right now or some other dude is gonna snatch it up! We all know how this one works.

How can you apply the technique of scarcity in your daily life? For one, don't ever be the one who calls and texts your love all day every day. It's important to give your lover a chance to miss you. You can't take up every waking thought in their head without burning them out eventually.

Someone who's not available all the time is desirable. This kind of reverse psychology applies to all aspects of personal and business life. Eventually your friends will get tired of you if you always show up on their doorstep unannounced. If you make sure you miss a couple meetings at work (which are always major time wasters), co-workers will automatically think you are working on more important projects. They don't have to know you're goofing off, but never correct their wild assumptions.

Let's say you meet a girl in another town while on a business trip. You might be tempted to tell her you'll be in town for awhile so she has time to get to know you before she sleeps with you. Wrong move! The fact that you're leaving and leaving soon makes you way more likely to push the timeframe forward.

Being presumptuous

You obviously want something from someone, but when they come right out and tell you, "I'm not going to lend you my car/sleep with you/babysit your six delinquent children." You can't let them have the upper ground.

You can actually use reverse psychology to guilt them into doing your bidding. These conversations usually start with a "how dare you" or a "what are you talking about?" You must lead them to believe that your desire was the furthest thing from your mind: "What!?? No, I was hoping to get my friend to watch my fire-starting kids. But now that you mention it, our lives would be so much better if you watched them. I could get so much more done and I know how much you love them!"

You could even insult them a little bit, "Oh, I wouldn't be caught dead in your car. Maybe I'll use this money that I was going to buy us dinner with to rent a BMW." Or, "Sleep with you? You're really not my type. It's sweet of you to think of me that way though."

You're not interested

Let's say you're in the market for a used car. You go into the dealer and he's got the exact car you had spec'ed out with all the options you wanted. You could freak out and say this is the one thing you've always dreamed of.

You just lost all your bargaining power. Before you've even had the chance to kick some tires and try to get a lower price, the salesman know how you simply have to own this car. He has no pressure on getting you in to it.

The best way to start is to first, freak out (on the inside) and get calm. Next, find everything wrong with what you want that you can. Then you simply relent to taking it off their hands.

If you have any siblings, you'll know what I'm talking about. They will never let you have anything that you really really want. Reverse psychology is perfect in situations like these. "That sucks! I'd never want that!" gets you so much further than begging.

This is also your last chance with that person you've been stalking all these years. They're kind of used to all the attention you've given them. The moment you act like you don't want them anymore is the moment they actually take notice in you. Remember, we want the things we can't have (seriously, quit stalking me!).

Jealousy

Although this is one of the most blatant and clichéd form of reverse psychology, the magic is that it still works. You could show that you're no longer interested, but you can add a hot new girlfriend or boyfriend to parade around to drum up some jealosy. No one wants to eat in an empty restaurant…

In fact, this is one of the quickest ways to get your ex back. You need to show them that you are having a great (and sexy) life without them. It touches all of those emotions that got them interested in you in the first place.

Reverse psychology works best on people that aren't very happy and children who are trying to assert their own identities. If used subtly and skillfully, it can be one of the most effective tools in your Influence Arsenal!

credits to the original perx

my very best YELL [koi] 'n our very best bond

BESTFRIENDS
♥ a promise♥
NOT A LABEL

her recent song: endless story by yuna ito
my recent song: we'll be a dream- we the kings

her codename: koi
my codename: tot

our'firsts' memories:
2gether late @ 1st subj [raining]
we watched the night sky @ st.paul church & wish
2gether get drank @ flyover, bajada
playin scrabble n drinking with her cousins
i kissed her cheek before xmas vacation
she played guitar for me @ rainer's room
we listen to the fm radio with her ol' cassette[ if she remembers]
and let it play overnight
1st over-to-dawn texting and i victimed her
i brought her @ pink sisters church
i made her a poem @ her debut




this wasn't the only best presence i received.
actually there's too many
but this one is very important
and sorry guys if i'm selfish enough
i just don't want anyone to use it





we dig ourselves to music
since we both much love music
we update each other our current songs



♥ chasing cars♥

We'll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don't need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
would you lie with me and just forget the world?




♥ EVERLASTING♥

it doesn't matter how far apart we are
our locked hands
will never seperate


my silent tears are
pouring out of my heart but
I'll take a step forward without regrets
I'm sorry for your tenderness
MATA AERU MADE

everlasting...



♥ changing skies♥

Looked out my window tonight
into the cloud hidden sky
and I, I proclaimed it to be mine
then I knew I'd bringing home,
bring home to you,

they all say that i'm crazy to get up and leave just like that
but I told them its just 4,000 miles
and I was willing to do that

I'm, I'm bringing home to you
cause your the only for me
and maybe you
I I'm changing skies for you but you'll never know
HOW MUCH I'VE MISSED YOU!



♥ vanilla twilight♥

The silence isn't so bad,
Till I look at my hands and feel sad,
Cause the spaces between my fingers
Are right where yours fit perfectly



♥ rainbow veins♥

Cheer up and dry your damp eyes
and tell me when it rains
And I'll blend up that rainbow above you
and shoot it through your veins
Cuz your heart has a lack of color ^_^



♥ safe ride♥

I'll be your safe ride home when you call me
I'll be everything and more
When you call my name


You've changed me for the good
They never understood
But even if they tried I doubt they could
So take my nervous hands
Then we could take a stand
We don't have to live by their demands

When I'm with you there's no worries
When I'm with you there's no shame
When I'm with you I'm secure


♥ innocence♥

This innocence is brilliant
I hope that it will stay
This moment is perfect
Please don't go away
I need you now
And I'll hold on to it
Don't you let it pass you by


I found a place so safe, not a single tear


It's so beautiful it makes you wanna cry



♥ i will be♥

You're the one thing I got right
The only one I let inside
Now I can breathe 'cause you're here with me.


I MISS YOU KOI T_T

the Psychology of DOTA -Just check what kind of DotA player you are!

• The Wannabe Hero •

He will probably not help you in a gank unless he's 100% sure
he'll get a kill and make himself look good.
Wait til late game and let him carry the team.
You play to win, you play to look good infront of everyone.

•The Rambo•

these guys who will rush into a fray of 5 enemy heroes and die
and then start spamming words
to the effect of "ZOMG NOOBS YOU DIDN'T HELP ME!!!!
(Rambo has left the game).
Strategy: Let him feed!

•The Newbie•

A newb and a noob are too different things.
A newb is a new player who will contribute to the team and follow orders
and generally ask question which will make him a better player.

A noob is someone who has played for over a year
and still get owned by everyone and spams in chat and ragequits after dying.
Newbies should be treated with care and caressed...
Maybe not caressed but you should all help these people out and give them pointers.

Strategy: Tell him that to win the game all you have to do is reach the enemy fountain[lols]

•The Silent Veteran•

Why don't they speak much? Because they're so good that they're used to owning .
Even after getting Beyond Godlike they still won't gloat or show off the fact.

•The Leader•

Usually a player will start pinging ganks and typing "b" or "push" into team chat.

Generally have a good strategic look on things.
Leaders are vital to victory during a game.

•The Never-Say-Die•

gotta love these guys. The exact opposite of the Quitter,
these people will stay til the very bitter end and will often be seen defending the lone
Throne all by himself against 5 enemy heroes.
Give these people a compliment since they're a dying species.

•The 12-Year Old•

"ROFL PWNED LMAO!"
Yep, these kids have just hit puberty and have raging hormones.
During pre-game chat they'll be saying all the stupid goofy stuff.
The good thing about kids is they're easy to own
due to their slower brains and bad judgement.

•The Elitist•

Elitists are everywhere and there's little you can do about them except get into name-calling competitions.

•The Coward•

See trouble. Run to fountain. These guys are as useful to your team as a chair is to a whale.

•The Casual Player•

In the pre-game chat these people will be like:
"Hi, how are you guys?" and usually be ignored.
In real life they are a father of three
and has just gotten home from his day job to play Dota.

•The Partially AFK•

While you're working your butt off trying to secure victory for your team,
these guys are munching on chips and cutting their nails
and glancing at the screen every so often.
pffftttt!

•The Know-nothing Know-it-all•

"STFU NOOB. I know what I'm doing.
Dagon on Juggernaught is the way to go."

• The Unaware•

So you just got ganked by 2 enemy heroes while your ally is beside you creeping.
They still don't know what happened.
These players will frustrate you to no end.
Their slow reflexes mixed with their lack of sight makes them a major liability.

•The Backdoor Bandit•

these guys are sneaky as hell.
They'll wait for everyone on the enemy team to pick heroes before they pick
so that they can choose a hero that counters all of them.
While you guys are ganking, he'll sneak up on your towers
and rax and own them with no resistance.

•The Team Member•

They will be the first to get wards, help in ganks, get gems, follow instructions and the like.

•The Pitbull•

If you ever end up in prison and sharing a cell with these guys
then be prepared to have a new boyfriend.

•The Over-Achiever•

Usually these guys will fight an enemy until the enemy is down to 20 HP,
at that point the enemy will start running back to fountain
Overachievers will pursue them and put everything on the line in order to catch their target.
These are the guys who will run into the enemy fountain for that last hit
and subsequently get totally ripped up.
Their scores will usually be along the lines of 12-12 since for every kill
they make they will also get killed.

•The Assassin•

If you are against these types of guys, RUN.
These guys are gank leaders and some also fall into the Pitbull category.
They have a strategic outlook on everything and use all their cunning and wisdom to demolish the enemy team because they know what works and what doesn't.


•The Mystic •

These are the guys that will look for an illusion rune, pick it and fool you into thinking
that the illusion is them and unload all your beautiful spells on the illusion.
After that, theyll most likely come with a companion but sometimes prefer to come alone.

•The Retard•

''OMGGG Y U KILL ME LOL OMFG IMBAAAAA I REPORT TO BLZARD WTFLOL'' ''...
I beat you fair and square, but 4 MKB recipes dont do shit'' ''LOL NOOB!!!
MKB BEST ITEM IN DOTA NOOB!! STFUNOOB L2P!!!!! BAN FOR BE NOOB'' ''whatever'' After that, theyll continue getting raped with you
likely not even using everything youve got and not going below 2/3 your HP.
These people usually arent very skilled at understanding things, have no skills, judgement,
anticipation and no you-name-it at all.

•The Consumer•

Just when you think you're about to kill one of them
suddenly they activate their empty bottle twice in a row, turn around, chew on a tango
and then proceed to beat your ass into the ground.
And then their chicken will come along and Dagon you.

•The Jackass•

Obviously these guys don't play Dota to win.
No no, they play Dota to be totally ridiculous.

ever chased someone who keeps running back and forth towards you and back
in such an unpredictable but dangerous manner that you can't hit them?
Well it's called juking and these guys would risk juking themselves to death
JUST FOR A LAUGH.

•The Pub Pro•
A very rare breed, simply because they are one of the few that
first started playing dota an eternity ago.
These guys are so experienced,
they kick your ass whenever, wherever, with any hero (even KOTL)...
But only if they feel like it.
One of the defining characteristics of the Pub Pro is LAZINESS.

credits to the original perx about this psy-of-dota.

hcysp setouq

" EVERYTHING that irritates us about OTHERS can lead us to understanding ourselves"

→ CarL J.

" If YOU tell a big LIE enough and keep REPEATING it,
people will eventually come to BELIEVE it."

→ Joseph Goebbels

"Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. "

→ Dr. Seuss

" Some people are AFRAID of what they might FIND if they try to ANALYZE themselves too MUCH, but YOU have to CRAWL into your WOUNDS to DISCOVER where your FEARS are. Once the BLEEDING starts, the CLEANSING can begin."

→ Tori Amos

" MAN is the only animal for whom his own existence is a PROBLEM which HE has to SOLVE."

→ Erich Fromm

" What people call INSECURITY is simply a method by which we can multiply our PERSONALITIES."

→ Oscar Wilde

" The purpose of psychology is to give us a completely different idea of the things we know BEST."

→ Paul Valery

" NO psychologist should pretend to understand what he does NOT understand... only FOOLS and charlattans know everything and understand NOTHING."

→ Anton Chekhov

"You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try. "

→ Beverly Hills


"The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely. "

→ Carl J.

"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny."

→ Albert Ellis